<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Mending Mind]]></title><description><![CDATA[mendingmind]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 22 Aug 2026 00:43:33 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://nl.mendingmind.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[How Do You Deal With So Much Suffering?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Recently, a young psychologist in supervision asked me a question that landed somewhere between the clinical and the existential. “How do you do it? How do you deal with suffering?”   She had come into the supervision today already exhausted from work and burnt out. She wondered if she should be a therapist at all. Before we spoke about anything analytically, I invited her to slow down for a moment. We did a short Gendlin-like focusing exercise together: simply breathing, sensing the body,...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/how-do-you-deal-with-so-much-suffering</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69b5d0404898c9cce5a27e87</guid><pubDate>Fri, 20 Mar 2026 06:15:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_13b1d9b1be5f424195ae152f75c29bb8~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapeutic Reflections: The Linguistic Oasis in Therapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[#multilingualism #psychotherapy #internationals #thirdlanguage When two internationals meet and speak the same language in a foreign...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/therapeutic-reflections-the-linguistic-oasis-in-therapy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">66aac1a21857e369c0634c1d</guid><pubDate>Wed, 31 Jul 2024 23:50:24 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_51706943725877317a5838~mv2_d_4730_2661_s_4_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapeutic Reflections: On Diagnosing People]]></title><description><![CDATA[Psychotherapy has something clunky and something incredibly elegant about it. Clunky because the tools used to diagnose and treat people...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/therapeutic-reflections-on-diagnosing-people</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6609da9ae7a3651d8feabd8a</guid><pubDate>Sun, 31 Mar 2024 21:59:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_01a082ab1cbd43e794ce39f9d84cfbab~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_890,h_711,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Unbreakable Human Spirit: Navigating Trauma and Loss Across History]]></title><description><![CDATA[Humanity's journey with trauma and loss is as old as civilization itself, with each era and culture offering unique insights into the art...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/unbreakable-human-spirit-navigating-trauma-and-loss-across-the-history</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65cb76541b529d7b229eef89</guid><pubDate>Wed, 21 Feb 2024 22:59:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d9830e737943403a9003b3b15e6c598d.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapeutic Reflections: Attachment in Internationals Part II]]></title><description><![CDATA[In an increasingly interconnected world, the number of individuals whose lives transcend geographical boundaries—expatriates, migrants,...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/therapeutic-reflections-attachment-in-internationals-part-ii</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65575185ac631333cf67dc75</guid><pubDate>Sun, 31 Dec 2023 20:39:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_0b4f571c08394ccfa6c1367f05e96dfc~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Psychotherapy: A Mystical Dance of the Soul and Science]]></title><description><![CDATA[We know that psychotherapy works, often more effectively than medication alone. Meta-analyses have consistently shown the efficacy of...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/psychotherapy-a-mystical-dance-of-the-soul-and-science</link><guid isPermaLink="false">655ce63f08eb6bf66e39578c</guid><pubDate>Thu, 23 Nov 2023 07:29:43 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_c20f17d988894395b96ad5dfa132400e~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Attachment in Internationals Part I: Understanding Attachment and Its Cultural Context]]></title><description><![CDATA[In an increasingly interconnected world, the lives of many individuals—expatriates, migrants, Third Culture Kids (TCKs), and globally...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/attachment-in-internationals-part-i-understanding-attachment-and-its-cultural-context</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65575a114290810e9a46fca2</guid><pubDate>Fri, 17 Nov 2023 13:28:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_f908ebab5965412db3bf954b3dd34b3b~mv2.webp/v1/fit/w_800,h_907,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[10 Things I Love About Being a Therapist, Plus 10 More for Working with Internationals]]></title><description><![CDATA[In a world that's more interconnected than ever, the role of a therapist has evolved to become a unique blend of confidant, cultural...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/10-things-i-love-about-being-a-therapist-plus-10-more-for-working-with-internationals</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6510b96fdc6c1f6d7d73f200</guid><pubDate>Mon, 25 Sep 2023 00:14:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_52cd2e5dff6e41599e5fcd30330286dc~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapeutic Reflections: How to improve your chances as a clinical psychology student.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Dear Clinical Psychology Student,  Don't give up. Your struggles are valid, and while they can be daunting, they're also surmountable....]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/therapeutic-reflections-how-to-improve-your-chances-as-a-clinical-psychology-student</link><guid isPermaLink="false">64d3d290876e7f552a1a852a</guid><pubDate>Thu, 10 Aug 2023 11:35:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_13818dfc42444185a740afe0c75b5903~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Expat-Informed Psychotherapy: A Deeper Dive into Cross-Cultural Mental Health Care]]></title><description><![CDATA[1. Introduction 2. Understanding the Expat Experience 3. The Expat's Migration History &#38; Its Effects 4. Culture, Language, and Mental...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/expat-informed-psychotherapy-a-deeper-dive-into-cross-cultural-mental-health-care</link><guid isPermaLink="false">64aba2485ccc00ab167e7eac</guid><pubDate>Wed, 12 Jul 2023 10:15:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_9df14aece9bf4410b306586174ecf6f7~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What is Expat Psychology? Let's start a Conversation.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Index (clickable) 1. Definitions Third Culture Kids Cross Cultural Kids So what is an expat? 2. What is Expat Psychology? 3. So...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/what-is-expat-psychology-let-s-start-a-conversation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">647e5fdf562f721bf7a5af62</guid><pubDate>Tue, 06 Jun 2023 08:01:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_f2c6eb1dda3d401ca83a67339626f928~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapeutic Reflections: Dealing with Suffering Compassionately]]></title><description><![CDATA[On kindness, compassion, compassion fatigue, and what to do about it. ]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/dealing-with-suffering-compassionately</link><guid isPermaLink="false">641c639387ef040ee7d377c5</guid><pubDate>Thu, 23 Mar 2023 14:57:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_8986abcf82a8432680c7d11463bf8be3~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What makes Psychotherapy effective? 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Movers report a less secure attachment style, according to Brian P....]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/exploring-the-connection-between-attachment-migration-and-belonging</link><guid isPermaLink="false">63e2bf304f03e8feeaea9356</guid><pubDate>Tue, 07 Feb 2023 21:19:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="http://youtu.be/27Td82_O7Ms" length="0" type="video"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapy reflections: How to become a better therapist.]]></title><description><![CDATA[I used to think that therapists are like wine: the older they get the better they are. I was wrong. Research shows otherwise. So what to do?]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/how-to-become-a-better-therapist</link><guid isPermaLink="false">63be0e46d2133819b225e52c</guid><pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2023 01:28:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_311c964825c143b4907b3379893b54e0~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapy reflections: Why do certain clients not want to talk in their native language in therapy?]]></title><description><![CDATA[#multilingualism in #therapy Curiously, certain clients prefer to speak a different language than their mother tongue (e.g. English...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/multilingual-therapy-reflections</link><guid isPermaLink="false">632b2858180041170156f216</guid><pubDate>Wed, 21 Sep 2022 15:13:42 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_4a256689f7694afbbfb843cd49193d60~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How is moving linked to one's attachment style and sense of belonging?]]></title><description><![CDATA[After 2.5 years our study has been published in the Journal of Community Psychology. We compared the reports of 465 students....]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/research-moving-attachment-belonging</link><guid isPermaLink="false">62e5ae80c963c81fa1558258</guid><pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 22:52:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_8a7e68028a724997bd60b474bd16f6a7~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[We're conducting an online study on Belonging and Attachment in International Students]]></title><description><![CDATA[Update July 2022: Our study has been published. Update 2020: The study cannot be filled out anymore. After gathering hundreds of...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/belonging-tck-attachment-online-study</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5ebae0fb7919e4001856f615</guid><pubDate>Tue, 12 May 2020 17:46:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a27d24_74a5c4593cc1454683305dbaa50c80cb~mv2_d_1880_1560_s_2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Helping your kids adjust moving abroad]]></title><description><![CDATA[I was Interviewed by Katie Russell from The Telegraph on how to help your kids adjust when moving abroad: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/exp...]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/2019/07/29/helping-your-kids-adjust-moving-abroad</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f6ba60b0107d100181827ed</guid><pubDate>Mon, 29 Jul 2019 18:37:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_b536d0ef22c0494e9124ae6c9bba1c0b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_941,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters, expat psychologist</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When our emotions get the best of us:
understanding your emotions and how to change them.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Emotions are not best understood by rationally understanding them, but by fully feeling them and then get to the bottom of things.]]></description><link>https://www.mendingmind.com/single-post/2018/02/28/understanding-our-emotions</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f6ba60b0107d100181827ee</guid><pubDate>Thu, 08 Mar 2018 09:46:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/fccd98_5e89d5232b194944b7c7f0df88d922dc~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_547,h_432,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Patric Esters, expat psychologist</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>